I have conversations with parents about baby and toddler sleep ALL day, you'd think I would be tired of it (pun intended). We don't make it through parenthood without knowing the pain of sleep deprivation at some point. Even if your child sleeps like an angel, there are always those colds and cases of flu, summer travels, teething episodes, and nightmares that will sabotage your baby's sleep.
What do you do?
Breathe, and follow:
1) Early bedtime. If your child has not had the best sleep as of late, resort to an early bedtime which can be as early as 6 or 6:30pm (whaaaa?!?!) It's true, sleep begets sleep. Trust me on this one.
2) Routine. When life happens (travel, teething, you name it) sleep will naturally be affected. Stick to your routine as close as possible so that your child knows that sleep time is coming up. If you don't have a bedtime routine, it's never too late to start: Bath, Massage, Story, Into Crib Awake ...
3) Consistent Sleep Space. When sleep is challenged it is important that your child feels safe and secure in their familiar sleep space. If they are sick or teething, there is nothing better than sleep to help them move through it. If you are on a summer adventure, take your child's sleep associations with them which can include their snuggly buddy or blankie, white noise machine (or app) and a portable blackout blind (the Gro Anywhere Blind is one of my favs).
Do your best to navigate the ups and downs of parenthood, if you need additional support you know where to find me XO
For the first few months after your baby is born, you often do what you need to do just to ensure survival. You swaddle, rock, hold, nurse, walk, bounce, drive, stroll, shuuush, DockATot and pacifier in order to have a few minutes of peaceful sleep and then have to DO.IT.ALL.OVER.AGAIN. Sound familiar? It does to me and all of my clients so you are definitely not alone.
All of these go-to strategies for survival can easily develop into sleep props that your little one can become easily dependent upon in order to fall asleep or fall *back* asleep. Some of the work that I do with clients is on removing these sleep props and teaching babies to self-soothe with the assistance of sleep associations.
What is the difference between a sleep props and sleep associations?
For some babies, this transition is relatively smooth and for other's it may take shedding a few more tears until a new self-soothing strategy enters the picture. As a sleep consultant, I am there to guide your family through the process of learning these new skills and ensure that the whole family is taken into consideration when I work with you.
Contact me today for a complimentary consultation and will get you started on the path to healthy, nourishing and sustainable sleep for the whole family. XO
It's a national holiday in my house - every day. I don't get the day off though, nor do I get paid double time just because my daughter pulls rank.
She is like her mama though so I spend much of my day feeling like I am looking in the mirror at myself. I knew motherhood would FFWD personal growth, but this much?
In the midst of her fierce independence I celebrate her evolution (and the glass of wine that I will have later this evening). It's all made better with sleep though, so if you are struggling through Toddler Independence Day, reach out ok? No need to go this alone. I am here for ya, mama.
Short Answer. A LOT.
Most of my clients are always amazed when they hear how much sleep their little ones are getting vs. what they actually need. I hear a silence on the other end of the phone, to the point where I think the call was dropped thanks to my occasional shotty cell reception.
Most of my client's little ones are getting half of the sleep that they require before they start working with me. They will often say to me, my baby is just stubborn, "spirited", colicky ... etc. Most often it's simply sleeping deprivation, they feel it just as intensely as we do.
Let's all get some sleep, shall we?
Its a muscle that needs to be flexed in order to develop and unfortunately that flexion doesn't happen without life getting really messy. My most recent life/career coach shed some light on this when he said ...
"Sabrina, you need to get uncomfortable to grow."
The details of how it is that I have become as resilient as I am is just fiction told in past tense though certainly relevant in the present as I raise my daughter. How can I walk next to her as she goes through those REALLY uncomfortable moments without rushing into take it away, or shying away out of fear? Perhaps you have asked yourself this very same question.
I have followed, loved and adored Sheryl Sandberg for years and many things she has said has resonated with me ... though this one still echoes. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
Stay strong mama. XO
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